What Not to Do

Hello, from a logical perspective

I am no longer a Ron Paul supporter.  

Now, some of you may be confused.  Many of my closest friends know of my love affair with this kookie old man, mostly because I talk about his economic wisdom and sense endlessly.  

However, I made the disturbing realization that Ron Paul does not support gay marriage, saying that it was a “state right” issue.  During the fall of 2011, I would have agreed, hoping that enough people would have realized that banning gay marriage was stupid and would have prevented. 

After some thought, however, I realize that this is NOT a state issue.  State issues are how money taken in from taxes is spent, healthcare (its too big to be a national issue), and education.  However, gay marriage is not a state right issue.  It is a human right issue. 

There are certain, shall we say, unalienable rights.  The right to marry another consenting adult is one of them, regardless of sexual orientation.  

My main rule is that I really don’t give a shit what you are doing as long as you are not hurting or taking away other people’s rights and that you pay your taxes.  Pretty simple rules, wouldn’t you say? 

Why can’t we all just be good people and help each other out.  Reach out a hand, help your neighbor get on their own two feet, and just love each other.  That’s all I want. 

Bailing

Okay, so I think I missed the train on another integral part of the human experience. 

In my mind, there are some hard and fast rules to friendship. 

1) If you hear someone else talking bad about your friend, you stick up for them in some way, shape, or form.  

2) You make sure that they feel loved 94% of the time.  When they call you at 11:30 p.m. on a school night asking you to come over, and you tell them that you have taken your contacts out and put your jammies on, talked to your boyfriend, and you are about to slumber, and they still ask you to come over, you do it.  

3) You tell them when the jeans don’t look good, but emphasize when they do. 

4) When you make plans, you make plans.  Somebody better be in the fucking hospital if you bail. 

5) When your friend is in something, or is putting on something, or is doing something, you do your fucking best to be there and show support. 

6) Listening.  Active, whole-hearted listening.  

7) If you disagree, validate their opinion first, then state your opinion, and don’t use the word “you” say “I” instead. 

8) Don’t call out their faults in public.  No ones perfect, and NO ONE likes to reprimanded in public.  RUDE! 

9) Love them the best that you can.  If you find yourself not liking them, take a break for awhile.  If you are meant to be friends, you’ll just fall together again. 

10) When you are angry with them, don’t splurge their secrets like vomit.  Secrets were shared, and secrets are secrets. 

Now, I am not the best kind of friend all the time, but I try to abide by these rules most of the time.  However, there are friends who have violated these rules SEVERAL times.  Today, I want to talk about the making plans bit.  

I am a planner.  A master planner, and I enjoy knowing when I’m going to do what, and when, and how, and everything.  What I do NOT enjoy is people making plans, and breaking them at the last moment because of headaches, or not feeling up to it, or because they’re tired.  Its like, “uh, well, uh, thanks.  Hope you feel better.  I guess I’ll just go back to my room and… be bored.”  Its just really obnoxious.